Marriage Of One

December 29, 2015

Accommodation: Compromise Without Promise

Filed under: marriage,relationships — marriageofone @ 11:31 pm
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I’ve stopped regular updates to this website as you can tell.

Since my last post some years ago, much has changed, and by the same token, some things have stayed the same and I didn’t want to keep repeating the same stuff again and again so I stopped writing. ┬áBut enough has changed now to add something to this story.

The first thing that has changed is that my parents are no longer living with us.  The second thing is that Susan made one huge compromise to her hitherto unwavering position (no pun intended) on sex.

Both of these changes stemmed from a huge and traumatic event that took place just over two years ago.



September 9, 2009

New Battlefield, Same War

Filed under: marriage,sex — marriageofone @ 10:02 pm
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I don’t really like bellicose language, but I thought this was somehow apt.

Just over two years ago Susan and I moved to our current home with hopes of turning our lives around. A large part of this turnaround was to do with our sex lives as Susan believed that our sexual problems were to do with our home environment where we used to live.

Well as regular readers of this blog already know, this was and remains a failure in the sense that we did not turn our sex-life around. It has not been a complete failure of course in that I got the proof that I would not have otherwise: Susan is the cause of her own sexual problems – even if only subconsciously. She even accepts this.

Where we differ is what she ought to do about it. All I know is that there is nothing that I can do to help her or us. I can only help myself. (more…)

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