Marriage Of One

March 18, 2010

A glitch in the matrix?

Filed under: intimacy,sex — marriageofone @ 10:26 pm
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Last week Susan and I made love again – just about 3 weeks after the last time.

To any ordinary person that would sound like a long enough drought- for me this is like a monsoon!  I wasn’t expecting any ‘rainfall’ until at least mid to late May!

I don’t want to over analyse this; I enjoyed her attention and I think she enjoyed it to.  That was and is the important thing.  Was it a one-off, a glitch in her otherwise asexual personality?  Or is this the start of better things to come?

Of course, she was in total control – she initiated and I – some would say, meekly – followed her lead.  She didn’t ask what I wanted or how I wanted it. When we were done I said ‘Thank you’.  She acknowledged it with ‘That’s alright’.

Other than that there has been no mention of it since.  I could broach the topic again but why?  It might make her feel better – and lead to more of the same, but it might also give her the impression that I’m raising my expectations and so stop her from doing it again.

Best to keep my mouth shut and just enjoy the rain when it falls, and appreciate the sunshine in between.



  1. I think that your last comment is the one to follow. If I’m reading the signs correctly, your backing off was what Susan needed. Stay with this and see where it goes. That is the real adventure!

    Comment by ToppHogg — March 21, 2010 @ 3:58 am

  2. I concur. I’m thinking that not following any particularly course of action is in fact, the best course of action. For now.

    That being said, it is not unheard of for Susan to appear to improve. I’m expecting that this is one of those ‘flash in the pan’ things and the next ‘rain’ will be early to mid June, as ‘normal’ although I’m hoping to be wrong again! As the relocation bears down on us, she is feeling the stress of the (re)organisation work and this will no doubt hamper (understandably so) any positive changes in her over the next few weeks. The real test will be on how long it lasts. After the first few days in the new house and the dust has settled there is no reason why any couple wouldn’t want to ‘break the ice’ in their new bedroom. But ‘any couple’ is not us. And past experience in our other ‘new’ homes has shown me that I could be in for a long wait.

    Comment by marriageofone — March 21, 2010 @ 11:33 pm

  3. Careful, my friend! Your past history is standing athwart any possible improvement in your relationship and yelling STOP! Don’t allow this! You have been through it all before. You know what to expect if it does happen. You have been living this deprivation life so long that you started to blog about it as an expert. So what is there now to worry about?

    Let it all happen as it is going to. The trend is good. Have hope for once! Susan might just live up to your expectations!

    Comment by ToppHogg — March 22, 2010 @ 10:05 am

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